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I am part of all that I have met.
~Alfred Lord Tennyson
I know, I know! I’m late, Late, LATE!
Quotography’s theme this week is focused on Alfred Lord Tennyson. If you’ve read any of his poems, you know he’s quite the wordsmith and, typically, not an easy read. Thankfully, Texture Tuesday is another Free and Easy Edition for whatever floats our boat. And Tuesday Muse is always flexible open to whatever our Muse inspires in us for the week.
This line is from the Tennyson poem, Ulysses, which is based on Homer’s character, Odysseus in The Odyssey.
As Ulysses is looking back on his life, he realizes all his encounters have shaped the type of person he has become. Everyone and everything that crossed his path was woven into his life story and impacted who he is today.
A recent message at our church asked a very intriguing question. It was asked, “if you, as a parent, could preview the script of your child’s life, would you change anything? Would you erase the bad parts and keep only the good ones? Would you alter their life so they didn’t have to struggle or experience anything horrific?”
A fair question. And we would probably say, “of course I’d erase everything that would cause them pain and suffering.” No parent wants their child to experience setbacks, discrimination, unfairness, sickness, disasters and/or heartbreak.
But is that the wisest choice? Before you think me a sadist, think about the times when you’ve learned the most about yourself. Was it during the rainbow and butterfly times in your life? Is that the time when your resolve was strengthened; your faith tested; your mind sharpened?
If we’re people of faith, much as we dislike it, we realize God is working in our lives through the good and the bad times to make us into the person He wants us to be. Those struggles and trials are by design. Let’s look at some noteworthy people and how horrible, terrible experiences ultimately shaped their destiny.
Moses: A baby who was a reed away from being murdered by Pharaoh’s decree to kill all Hebrew male children. Instead, he grew up as the adopted son of Pharaoh’s daughter’s and raised in opulence inside the palace walls. But he found himself identifying with the Hebrew slaves and eventually turn his back on the lap of luxury. Run out of town and exiled to the desert, Moses lived as a shepherd (the lowest of the socially low) for 40 years before God gave him the divine re-assignment to return to Egypt to free the Hebrew slaves. The struggles and hardship from living as a nomad formed his character and equipped him to handle some pretty difficult circumstances when the time was right.
Joseph: Thrown into a well by his jealous brothers only to be drug out and sold into slavery, Joseph was carried off to Egypt and sold to the captain of Pharaoh’s guard where he spent quite a bit of time hanging out in prison. But this allowed him to be in the right place at the right time to prove his indispensable value to the Egyptian king. Consequently, he became one of the most humble, but powerful right-hand-men in the kingdom….which, in turn, allowed him to save the lives of his rotten brothers and very surprised father when they showed up in Egypt to ask for food during the famine. Funny how things work, isn’t it?
David: Not a stranger to challenging situations, David, another socially-unacceptable shepherd, spent years on the run hiding in caves from a jealous King Saul…who was tipped off by the prophet Samuel that David would be the next King of Israel. It was while he was in the hiding in the wilderness, alone and scared that he learned to trust God, re-evaluated his life and rose to become Israel’s greatest king.
Do you think the parents of these people would have wanted to change the script for their children’s lives so they didn’t have to experience the terrible things that happened to them? If they hadn’t experienced those terrible things, would they have accomplished the successes they are most known for in history?
There are so many horrific things that happen in the world. While it’s noble for us to want to right the majority of these wrongs, we simply cannot make it easier for everyone. We may not like it, but many of these events might just be the behind-the-scene workings to bring someone to the best they can be.
Believe me, there are many events I would have liked to have nixed ahead of time. But looking back, those times made me stronger…and more than a little wiser. All the people and experiences I’ve had are now a part of me. And I would not be the person I am today without them….all of them.
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10 thoughts on “I am part of all that I’ve met”
I hear you on this one, Lisa. As a new parent, I tried my best to smooth over any possible obstacle or bump in my baby’s path (both literal and figurative), but, with a few years of experience under my belt, I’ve realized that teaching my kids how to roll with the punches is actually a better lesson than paralyzing them for life in this world by trying to solve every problem for them.
Our oldest son went through almost two years of depression, but fortunately, it ended when he was able to finish high school and get away from the area for awhile. It was the worst year of my life watching him suffer and wondering if he would survive it. He did…we did…and we’ve tucked it way in the back of our minds now.
Your zinnia image is so lovely. I’ve just discovered the “Cut and Come Again” zinnias after seeing them in a huge cemetery in Portland, Oregon. I’m going to order seeds for next year!
Great food for thought (as usual) Lisa — thanks so much for sharing this week at TM.
I love this quote and the picture of the zinnia as well. I have always loved Tennyson.
Loved the quote, photo AND what you have shared here, Lisa!!!!!
“Before you think me a sadist, think about the times when you’ve learned the most about yourself.”
No, my friend, I don’t think you a sadist at all. In fact, I agree with you.
” We may not like it, but many of these events might just be the behind-the-scene workings to bring someone to the best they can be.”
Exactly! Going through challenging experiences is without a doubt, very difficult. But it’s funny because when I now look back on those experiences (and I know this may sound ridiculous), I see them as the BEST times of my life.
” But looking back, those times made me stronger…and more than a little wiser.”
Yup. And they have made me into the person I am today.
So no, I wouldn’t want to change one single thing.
Awesome post and reminder, Lisa!
I really like what you did with the photo..I am new to textures but am enjoying it..I used to tell my daughter when things got tough that you then got to find out what kind of a person you were and how tough you really were… but I would love to have that not have been necessary…Michelle
I hurt when my kids hurt – but you are so right – I gained the most strength and grew the most as an individual during the painful, difficult periods. There are times, however, when I think I should be done with the strengthing now, thank you.
The toughest part of this is that the lessons everyone needs most to learn and grow from will continue to appear in our lives until we’ve learned how to deal with them with a measure of grace and dignity and a ton of acceptance. One of the biggest reasons I chose not to have children is that I would have protected them from pain at all cost ~ to their detriment and mine.
Wonderful choice and love your sentiments. Cheers
this was such a profound post, I’m glad I stopped by to read it. Sometimes the tough times in life do the most for us kelley—the road goes ever ever on